Read that again.
Sharing, vibrating, living and being in love is light years away from wanting to BE loved.
When you recognise the difference you won’t accept anything less.
It’s no secret that our big old pal the Universe serves us up the same pattern over and over again until we learn what it is we are meant to learn, right?
It could be work situations, issues with your partner or the relationships you have in your life in general.
These few lines from Atticus, the rock star poet himself sat me straight on my butt in the most ungraceful of ways.
Because it’s made me question ‘all the things’.
Have I truly been IN LOVE, like that soul shaking, indescribable, can’t live without you love? Maybe.
Have I been in that needy love, that please accept me, please approve of me, I so desperately want to make you happy so that you’ll love me and then and only then when I have your love maybe I can love myself kind of love?
This is not the end of the world though friend, and I’m not saying which relationships were which but this realisation will ‘hopefully’ stop me and you now too from falling into the same pattern again.
(Just to be clear – I’m the type of girl who likes to make the same mistake a few times to really drive it on home. Just to make sure that I really get it…and then probably once more because, slow learner or my fav ‘What if?’…pfffft NO)
So what happens when we set to create a life filled with love or call in a partner or friend for that matter to share that love with, rather than someone to make us feel loved or worthy within our existence?
The conversation changes from ‘Oh, I hope they like me’ too ‘Do I like the way I feel around them?’
It changes from you seeking their approval to working out whether or not you want them to be in your life.
Big fucking difference.
Atticus. This is everything.
The bottom line is ladies, we need to know our worth.
Know our patterns and decide which ones are working for us and which ones can royally ‘fuck right off’ to put it in not so eloquent terms.
Mum if you’re reading this, I apologise for the swearing but I’m super passionate about this and let’s be honest, you’re probably thinking ‘thank goodness, it’s about bloody time’.
See mum… I got there in the end.
And so you will you sweet friend of mine.
Know your worth, work on that and when you’re filled to the brim of trust and belief in yourself then and only then will the right people show up.
So if you need me, I’ll be over here working on myself, for myself and sharing what I discover along the way.