How much time do you spend worrying about what could go wrong and how you would cope if it did?
Im’a going to take a stab at the answer in a super intellectual and measurable term;
The answer – Shit loads.
I have spent hours within days and days within years doubting myself and my ability to handle life’s gnarly situations. I was always fearful of the fall out and after having made my way up the mountain time after time the valley aint such a bad place to visit.
Pain creates resilience.
Fear is the first step toward bravery and if you truly want to find yourself, first you have to get a little lost.
Why do we feel like we need to avoid pain?
Why do we as a society feel uncomfortable around sadness?
Every shitty thing we’ve ever felt or experienced now stands as something we have overcome.
If you are reading this, you’re a survivor.
If you are reading this you have endured.
If you are reading this you truly are resilient and you are so, so, so much wiser because of it.
THAT’S A WIN FRIEND!
“I’ve already seen the bottom, so there’s nothing to fear
Know that I’ll be ready when the devil is near
I am here, I am here
All of this wrong, but I’m still right here
I don’t have the answers, but the question is clear..”
And yep – I’m totally quoting Pink because her bad-assery is next level.
“This is all well and good” I hear you say but “How do I actually ‘action it’…
How do I stop worrying about things going wrong and instead start to embrace where I am now?”
YOU BACK THE SHIZZLE OUT OF YOURSELF.
Instead of worrying about what others think of you, turn inwards and start focussing on how YOU think of YOU.
Instead of hoping that others will accept you, instead start working on accepting yourself.
Stop worrying about finding love and instead focus on loving yourself.
You will survive every ‘shit show’ you face.
You will find a way through every single block.
You will only be given what you can handle and you are so much more capable then you have the capacity to imagine.
You don’t have to wait for the rug to be ripped out from under you to start. You don’t have to wait until your sobbing on the bathroom floor to review and you sure as anything don’t have to wait for a divorce, a death or a diagnosis to start living your life in the sunlight.
You don’t need to hit rock bottom to rise, just believe in your ability to thrive and you will.